I get it- you’re with the boys (a.k.a. the girls). What better pastime is there than talking about boys? Believe me, there are many, but between us, this just happens to be our favorite 😉. But all jokes aside, you love your girlies… and also your man, which is why who you listen to is of great importance. Here’s how NOT to receive relationship advice from the girlies.
Be honest, are the girlies single?
Is it just me, or does that one single friend just give amazing advice? It’s like no matter the problem you throw at her, there’s just the perfect answer that just makes you sit and think, “Wow, why didn’t I think about that before?”
Let me tell you why: SHE’S SINGLE! Relationships are beautiful, but love complicates things. So if you’re talking to someone who has no one to focus on but themselves, it’s safe to say you might want a second opinion. Her advice may be as sweet as she is, but try putting it to the test and see how well it holds up.
Your single friends are of course not completely useless; experiences from their past relationships could be of great help to you, but proceed with caution. You can also go to her for personal aspects of your life that only affect you.
Learn from their mistakes, don’t make them.
Be real, is it wise to listen to the girlies whose relationships make you raise an eyebrow? Like be realll- when she comes to you with the craziest, probably toxic, and mind blowing stories about her and her man, how do you forget about them when it’s your time to share a story?
All love and no judgment to her, but if her relationship needs a lot of fixing, so will yours after taking her advice.
Instead, talk to your friends with beautiful and lasting relationships, because that’s the goal. Don’t make them your “couple goals,” because no relationship is perfect, but hear them out when they’re around to give some friendly advice.
The new hottie in town wants you… not her.
This could be my 11-year-old obsessed with Disney Channel brain talking, but if you and your friends both share the same love interest, watch your back.
For her, it’s worse that he chose you, but talking about him in her face?? No ma’am. If she still wants him, what kind of relationship advice do you think she’d be giving you?
I know, you love her, and she’s never steered you in the wrong direction, but when boys get involved, things can change. With all Disney Channel scenarios aside, I hope your friends actually care for you and set aside their desires of wishing they were you with your newfound love, Ser Hottie II.
Sometimes it’s kind of tricky involving your longtime friends in your love life because you hold both near and dear to your heart. With that being said, it’s probably best to either take the advice from the friends mentioned above with a grain of salt, or to pick and choose which friends you’re sharing information about your relationship with.
